The sooner we get in touch with what we are believing, the quicker we can change our mindset to work for us and not against us.
Knowing which beliefs are real and which are faulty interpretations is the quickest way to influence your Confidence. To keep it simple, I’ll refer to them as True Beliefs and False Beliefs.
What makes a belief True?
If the answer is ‘yes’ to the three questions below, then it is true.
- Is it helpful?
- Does it help me move forward?
- Does it bring more peace, freedom, joy, and love?
What makes a belief False?
If the answer is ‘yes’ to the three questions below, then it is false:
- Is it harmful?
- Does it keep me stuck?
- Does it bring more anxiety, oppression, grief, and fear?
Rather than keep it conceptual, let’s consider a few random beliefs.
Imagine someone who believes no one likes them. Is that helpful? Would it fuel them to move forward? Or bring more peace, freedom, love or joy? Clearly not. But on the other hand, is it harmful or would it keep them stuck – absolutely. Then it’s a False Belief.
Let’s try one more. A person believes they can attain their dream of becoming a painter if they will invest time in learning the art. Does that move them forward? Yes. Is it helpful? Of course. And it certainly will result in more peace and freedom. They will experience more joy and love as they dive into a hobby they’ve longed to pursue. Then this is a True Belief.
Oh, one more key point. A belief cannot be simultaneously true and false. That’s extremely helpful since it takes away the ambiguity that so often keeps us stuck.
Why is this important to know?
Let me tell you about a conversation I had recently with my friend, Chandi. She is in the thick of motherhood with raising two toddlers. When they both recently got sick with a high fever, her fears were starting to—well, snowball. What if they don’t get well? What if I don’t know what to do? What if they have a deadly virus? And the worries only grew. We’ve all been there. It may be around other situations, but we know what it feels like to be overcome by persistent worries that continue to snowball.
Chandi’s worries were based on a False Belief—“It’s all on me to get this right and I’m afraid I’ll blow it”. And this can feel true as a parent responsible for two sick kids, right? But when she shifted her belief to “God is here leading me and guiding me”, she began to relax and allow her brain to make room for more ideas to help her children.
You see our minds can’t do both—worry and problem solve. It’s either one or the other. So, help yourself out and get the right belief snowballing. The sooner we get in touch with what we are believing, the quicker we can change our mindset to work for us and not against us.
When Chandi shifted her belief, she was able to trust the advice nurse, comfort her children, and hang on to a higher confidence that energized her as she nursed her children back to health. See how this can impact your confidence?
So, let’s keep this simple. Here’s what I coach clients to try based on research and personal experience- choose a True Belief and meditate/pray on it for 5 minutes a day. Do this for 3 months and see how your beliefs snowball into growing the mindset you need for more clarity, confidence and courage to move forward.
My heart is with you and for you,