In my last article I discussed the difference between True and False beliefs. We learned that the sooner we get in touch with what we are believing, the quicker we can change our mindset to work for us and not against us.
As we explore what impacts confidence, and how to change our mindset around beliefs, it’s helpful to learn from each other. So what are people saying about their beliefs?
Here are some common False Beliefs followed by their corresponding True Beliefs. I frequently hear these in both personal and professional coaching relationships. See how many you can identify with:
FB: I’m not ready to have the hard conversation.
TB: I get to schedule this important talk and trust I have what it takes to do this well.
FB: I don’t get to speak up because I’m not an expert.
TB: I’m good at my area of expertise and get to ask questions that help me partner well.
FB: I have to lead the same way for every member of my team.
TB: Everyone’s in a different place. I get to respect where each person is and meet them there.
FB: I need to get things done on my own and not ask for help.
TB: It’s ok to ask for help and people appreciate it when I do. It’s not a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of strength and it’s how we can partner well.
FB: A new relationship will be hard.
TB: I get to experience new relationships. They can be fun, easy, & mutually enjoyable.
FB: I don’t know what I’m doing as a parent.
TB: I get to trust that I am being led and guided and seek out wise counsel.
FB: I’m stuck and there’s no way out.
TB: I always have options.
FB: If I need someone, I’m failing as a leader.
TB: Great leadership invites in trusted advisors.
FB: If I compliment others, it’s a sign of weakness.
TB: My relationships need to hear my gratitude. Doing so raises trust.
FB: I’m stuck and I can’t do anything about it.
TB: I’m never stuck and I can make choices to take care of myself – but first I need to rest to get my clarity.
FB: If I’m not being productive, I’m a lazy and horrible parent.
TB: I need time on the tire swing and under the stars to be the best version of myself.
FB: I’m a terrible friend because of all the things that are being said about me.
TB: I’m not perfect but I’m a good friend and not who they’re making me out to be.
FB: I have to fix this on my own.
TB: I get to say MY truth and trust that God is leading and guiding me.
FB: I hate exercising.
TB: Moving my body is a pleasure and I get to find ways to enjoy it.
I hope it’s helpful for you to see the truths right after the lies. These lies can quickly snowball in our lives so it’s important to see true interpretations right next to them. Exposure to the light helps melt the False Beliefs.
Keep practicing your True Beliefs remembering that what you water grows.
May your roots go down deep into the beliefs that bring you more life and freedom.
My heart is with you and for you,