Confidence Isn’t Optional

For the past couple of months, the blog posts have been about finding clarity in our lives so that we can know where we are and where we want to go. If you are just joining the newsletter, be sure to check out the past blogs about clarity. And if you’re joining us for the first time today, I’m so happy you’re here. I want these reflections to serve as a casual coaching experience as we make our way through my book The Life You’re Made For where we focus on 3C Living: Clarity, Confidence, and Courage. Let’s jump right in. 

In the search for clarity, you’ve discovered how to silence mind chatter; you’ve sought time on the tire swing and under the stars. Now what?

This week we begin the next section in 3C Living:

I’m frequently asked by clients questions about confidence. Confidence is a foundational element of getting the life you were meant to have. I want everyone reading this to have the confidence to chase after the life you want. Let me pause for a moment and underline that for you. This is about your life. Not your spouse’s. Not your child’s. Not the life your parents want you to live or the life your neighbor has. Why is this an important distinction? Well, because it’s in our human nature to compare ourselves to those around us. Or to allow others to dominate the direction we’re going. This is a journey you’re taking to find the life you want … and that life is entirely unique to you! 

Here’s a piece of advice that was given to me years ago and I used it as ammunition to keep fighting for the life I wanted. Ready?

Confidence isn’t optional. 

So this is where we’ll begin. We have to come to terms with the idea that confidence isn’t something we can avoid. If you’re one of those people who has been told you “lack confidence,” then I have another little gem to share with you. Confidence is something you can grow, just like a muscle. We hit the gym five times a week and eat more protein when we want to increase muscle mass. The way we grow our confidence is a lot less physically exerting, but it can still be a challenge. We start by giving ourselves permission.

Permission for what, you might be asking? Permission to admit that there are areas in your life where you’re feeling stuck. To admit that you’ve got too many responsibilities and you’re tired. To admit that you don’t even enjoy half of the roles you play. And after you admit this, you can give yourself permission to make some changes.

Join us over the next month or two as we continue to explore ways to grow our confidence and begin shaping our lives so that when the alarm goes off, we don’t groan and cover our heads with our pillows. It’s time to pick our heads up and look around at the life waiting to be lived. Now is the time. Are you ready to do this for yourself? The journey of a lifetime begins with a single step.

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