There’s a quiet moment before the deep stuff begins. The chatter fades, and then—like a whisper from the soul—she lets you know it’s time to start. That’s when the sacred ground opens.
Some relationships are like holy intersections—brief but meaningful convergences with certain people at certain times. They are on sacred ground. When they last longer, when they deepen, it’s a joy and a privilege. But even fleeting moments can leave a lasting mark.
We see it in little things, like Christmas cards up in April. Reminders of care that outlast the season.
But here’s the real question in any meaningful relationship:
Does the person across from me feel cared for? Are they being heard? Seen? Valued?
We intersect with people in powerful places—life transitions, hard choices, and everyday check-ins. A text that says, “Thinking of you,” on a busy Wednesday. Someone remembering your deadline. Noticing you haven’t seemed yourself.
It’s shocking, in the best way, when someone remembers. Because memory is a form of love. Curiosity is care.
And yet, we don’t always get it right. I know I haven’t. I’m present in the moment, but I don’t always hold the story well afterward. I’ve had to learn how to follow up, circle back, and ask better questions.
Because being seen across multiple seasons? That’s rare. And precious.
I look for genuineness in my relationships now. I want you to be yourself. I want to be a friend with ease, not tap dancing for acceptance. I want honesty, even when it’s hard.
Especially when it’s hard.
And in long-term friendships, it takes intentionality. A good, casual friendship can become deeper with just one honest conversation. “Can we do monthly coffee?” turns into years of shared life.
Relationships are dynamic. They evolve. So must we.
So we ask:
- What does it look like to maintain this relationship together?
- How can I support you in feeling seen?
- What are the barriers in me that keep relationships from flourishing?
- What is my relating style—do I move toward, move away, or move against?
Because it always takes two. Every relationship is a living, breathing thing. A dance of mutual commitment, curiosity, and care. Both parties should feel fulfilled. If they don’t, it’s worth asking: How can I be a better friend to you? What do you need?
We don’t need to think alike to love each other well. We don’t need to vote the same to make safe ground. We can care more about the relationship than the argument.
Let’s stop drinking the Kool-Aid of division. We are one human race. I’ve never met someone I’m not related to.
We are all connected. We all want safety. Health. Opportunity. The ability to live well.
Even when relationships break, even when we walk separate paths, we can still want the best for the other. Still love without fully understanding. As A River Runs Through It reminds us, “We can love completely without complete understanding.”
So here’s to holding each other’s stories with grace.
To showing up, asking better questions, and listening well.
To blessing and releasing.
To doing the sacred ground work of relationship.
Join us as we share about all of this in our podcast series, It’s All About Relationships, because we’re in this together.
Cheering you on!